EVERYONE Wants to be liked. To be liked and appreciated is one of the normal human desires. That’s why toothpaste, perfumery, makeup and the like, are produced and sold by the millions through advertisements which promise popularity. The problem of getting along with others is no simple matter: it is an important skill which must be mastered if we are to be happy with life and with people. But how is it done ?
When interviewed by a pressman about the basic requirement of being requirement of being a successful salesman, Mr. C. Wood bridge, Director of a big American corporation, stated, “ It’s to like people. Of course he must know the product of his company. He must be hard worker. He must be dynamic, But first of all he must like people.
When a person genuinely likes other people, he himself is certain to be liked in return. So, a primary step in trying to be well liked is simply to like other people and like them sincerely, not just for a certain purpose.
Of Course, this is not always easy. Some people are more difficult to like then others. But the more you practice liking people, the easier it becomes. This cannot be done merely by saying, “ I am now going to like everybody.” Liking other people is the result of a way of thinking, that is, a positive way of thinking.
You should avoid having any negative thinking toward other people, such as pride, prejudice, jealously, unreasonable suspicion, and so on. If you can develop a positive mental attitude, the world will seem so different and wonderful that you tend to love everybody and everything.
Behaviour often speaks as clearly as words, sometimes even more clearly. Most of us tend to talk too much when people come to us with a problem, not realizing that on certain occasions silence is better than speech. Many of us do not realize that the art of good communication includes not only the skill of listening attentively and understandingly, or , in other words, listening positively.
To Listen positively is to listen with patience, symphaty and with love. Sometimes a person visits a friend to ask for advice to help solve a problem, whereas what he needs is a companion to whom he can pour out all his worries. He tells his friend all his problem. What the friend does in only listen and listen; listening attentively and sympathetically. In the end the visitor finds his own solution, thanks his friends and praises him as being very understanding, and leaves happily.
What the wise friend did? He seemed to do nothing, but actually he did something creative. He Has no negative feeling toward his visitors; he loves his guests, he loves everybody who comes to him for help, and in return, the guest loves his as well……………………….
GEOGLOBE
Sunday, February 22, 2009
To Like and to be liked
Thursday, February 19, 2009
THE Art of Being a Parent
Pregnancy and birth are truly marvelous things. Human being will probably just what takes place during the nine months in mother’s womb. Think of it ! At the very beginning this creature that will influence your life is so small that it is smaller than the dot on this letter “i” . Three weeks later it has grown to about the size of the letter “t”.
At five months the unborn baby may stretch, head to foot. Another four months. And all three to five kilogrammes of him will let out a cry that will surprise you. As he seems to say ; “Here I am. Are you ready for me?”
Actually, these nine months have provided just enough time for the preparation of your mind, emotions and body for the welcoming of your new friend.
Remember, mother, what is taking place within you is a very marvelous yet natural process. Do not feel too strange about the changes in your body. But it will be worthwhile learning something about the marvelous development from an ovum to the delivery of the newborn baby.
A Visit to a library or a delivery consultation bureau will help you to find information about this process. It will give you proper insight and understanding, and enable you to get ready for the newcomer.
What name will you choose? Your child will be known by it for a very long time, so the choice of name should be given serious thought. Some parents choose name that have religious backgrounds, such as those taken from Holly Qoran or the Bible. Others select a name that has more of family connection. You may think of a name that has some personal meaning to yourselves. Some parents have even made up a very original name.
But do not give your child a name that will result in awkwardness or embarrassment as he grows older. The name RajasanagaraTuggadewa may have been all right for an aristocrat in the period of the ancient Javanese kingdom of Singhasari, but it would make a person a laughing-stock these days.
Then there is the matter of clothes and napkins or diapers. Of which you will need a lot. Also, will you have the baby delivered at home, in a hospital or in a maternity clinic? These are just a few of the many things you will have to ask yourselves and think over during these nine months. But there are other decision to be made, too.
One early decision is whether the baby will be breast-or bottle fed. It is true that bottle feeding is less bothersome. But even though cow’s milk may be adapted to meet the physical needs of the young one. There is a very important psychological need that a mother fulfills when she feeds her baby from the breast.
Also, no substitute can match perfectly the nourishment and protection that mother’s milk is naturally designed to give a baby. Breast milk has a constant temperature: it is germ-free: it is easily digested: it contains all vitamins, and, what is more important It contains certain substances that are very very necessary for the protection of the baby from infections.
Do got be surprised if you find that your life is not your own when the newcomer first arrives at home. Due to his special needs, you may find that your life is governed to a large extent by the desires and needs of the baby. However, gradually the little once kindness to realize that he has become a member of a household that does not belong only to himself.
Right from the start.help your child to understand the need to obey. Obedience can be a real protection from all sorts of dangers.
There is also much training to be done in the home. Teaching a child to put away his toys, to put his dirty clothes in the right place and to dress and undress himself Can all be done before the child is three. It may take longer to train him to do these himself. But the time you spend teaching him will not be in vain :.you will realize the benefit later.
It never too early in life to begin building in his mind and hearth belief in God. How happy you will be that he is learning to copy your example as he whispers” in The name of God Almighty, The Most benevolent…….” Before a meal and in thanks after it.
The first cry of the newcomer will bring you, it’s mother, proud joy. The baby’s first smile, Lifting its head to see what is going on, its funny, meaningless noises, trying to chew its own feet and following head movements are all occasions that will find that not a day goes by without some surprise at the little one’s development .One day you , its father, will peep into its little crib and get a bright smile, and you may feel sure that is a smile of recognition.
It brings great satisfaction to parents to see their child developing mentally and physically. One day you may notice him pretending to do what you are doing. You will often see your self in him. He will do lots of things that make you just want to kiss and hug him.
Yes, you will have a lot of joy and happiness in being a parent to a little newcomer…………..
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
THE LANGUAGES OF THE WORD
How Much mankind is divided by the use of different tongues! About 3,000 spoken Languages have been counted by experts.If all the dialects (local forms of a language) were added to the above figure, it would probably be much higher. But then even experts disagree in some cases about what is simply a dialect. Why? Because, even when people speak dialects of the same language, they may be unable to understand one another.
Most languages can be grouped together into about ten Language families (here, again, different numbers). All the languages in the same family are branches of one ancient parent language, and, in many cases, the patent language has died out.
Many persons know that French, Italian, Spanish, Portuguese and several other languages are all modern varieties of latin. Not so many are aware that even Latin is classified as being only a member of a languages of Europe and India. It is said to have developed from a lost ancestor called Indo-European.
Besides these, there are some tongues, like Japanese, that cannot be classified into any known family, and many other languages that have disappeared.
About half the world’s population speak a language classified as belonging to the Indo European Family. It is no accident that the world for “three”, for example, is similar in Russian (tri), German (drei), French (trios), Danish (tre), Dutch (drie), Irish (tri), Albanian (tre), and so on. All these languages are said to originate from the lost Indo-European language.
Only recently, since about the end of the eighteenth century, have linguists begun to analyze the history and relationship of living languages. Before that, They tended to compare merely the written form of words in different languages. But there is much more to the family relationship than that. Even When two languages have very few similar words. They may put sentences together in a way that shows a relationship between the two.
Take the example of Lao (the languages of Laotians, who are the people Laos) and Chinese. It would be difficult to find many words similar in these two languages, yet they have three other important features in common.
First, one word in both languages may have several different meanings according to the tone of voice used when saying it. For Example, the Lao saying it. For Example The Lao word “mu”, spoken with a low tone of voice,means “friend”. While with a rising tone it mean”pig”.
Second most words have only one syllable or are made up of several one –syllable words linked together.
Third, when speaking of a number of object one must use a word called a “Classifier” every time to denote the class of object to which they belong. Thus a Laotian cannot just say “three girls” but must say. “ Girl three persons ( of people).” Showing that girls belong to the class of “people”. These three features suggest that Chinese and Lao are relatives within the same language family.
On The other hand, we can not classify different languages by the characters in which the languages are written. English and Vietnamese both use the Roman alpabhet, which the Vianamese formally adopted in the seventeenth century, but the languages are very different Japanese and Chinese use similar writing. Which causes some person to associate them together. Yet each of them comes from a different languages family. English and Russian, however, which are regarded as distant relatives within the same family use different alpabhet
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Monday, February 16, 2009
The Amazing Inventions of LEONARDO DA VINCI
The Amazing Inventions of LEONARDO DA VINCI
Perhaps no one history achieved so much in so many different fields as did Leonardo da Vinci. He was an architect, astronomer, geologist and biologist, and also a musician and sculptor as well as painter. His Monalisa is one of the most famous painting in the world. There seems to be no field in which he was not a master.
Like Roger Bacon, he foresaw many of discoveries and inventions that would be made in centuries to come, but unlike Bacon who only dreamed about them, Leoanardo sat down and worked out the plans and designs.
From his notebooks we can tell that Leonardo approached science and art with the same method. After studying a problem, he made many sketches to help him find a solution. He saw no difference between planning a machine and a painting.
He had a keen interest in how things worked. In his notebooks there are working drawings of rockets, machine guns, parachutesand flying machines. There are also designs for measuring the force of the wind. The moisture in the air, and the speed of travel.
How Could horses run so swiftly? He compared the feet of horses and men, carefully examining the bones and muscles.
Why were birds able to fly ?Leonardo bought all the birds in the market. He let them out oh their cages and watched the movement of their wings and bodies. He Carefully studied the contruction of the feathers, the tail and the bones.
Then the thought came o him : “Why should not man be able to fly?” His study of bird structure and flight helped him design the first helicopter.
Leonardo has a mysterious power for guessing at discoveries that were going to be made in the future. He guessed that the blood circulates through the human body. He guessed that failing things increase their speed as they fall. He guessed that the earth is one of the sun.
One of his most remarkable guesses solved the mystery of the regular changing of the shape of the moon.
“ There can be only one answer”, said Leonardo. “ The earth reflects light just as the moon does. Some of the light from the sun that reaches us here on earth bounces of all to the moon. This reflected light allows us to see. The earth acts like a giant mirror and so we can see the shining part of the old moon by earthshine.
Another famous discovery of leoanrdo’s solved a very old puzzle : How does it happen that the patterns of fish and oysters are to be found in the rocks on top of mountains?”
Leonardo carefully exaimined the patterns. These prints were the fossils or remains of sea animals that had lived on our planet thousands of years ago!
But how did they get from the bottom of the sea to the tiop of the highest mountain?
Said Leaonardo, “ What is now a mountain top was once under the surface of the sea.”
Leornardo was right again. In acient times extradinary changes took place on the surface of the earth. In some places great continesnts disappeared forever beneath the waves. And In other places mountains raised their heads high above the water, carrying with them the remains of sea plants and animals.
Leonardo da Vinci was born in the town of Vinci, Italy. In 1452. His father was a successful government official, and his mother was a peasant girl. Leoanardo spent his early years on his family’s farm. Free to explore in the fields and streams, he grew to love the outdoors.
In 1469 Leonardo moved with his father to Florence where the young man learned painting from Andrea del Verrocchio. A few years later he painted scuh a beautifull angel that Verrochio. His matter, gave up painting altogether forever.
One of leonardo’s weaknesses as a human being was that he frequently left a painting he was drawing unfinished, regardless of its state of completion. He did so especially if there was another project that interested him.
Another of leonardo’s interest was the study of human body. At first, like other artists of the 15th century, he studied the outside appearance of the body. Then he became interested in its inner structure and later he even dissected several corpes to find out how the body was put together.
Leonardo looked at plants as closely as he looked at men and animal, and he made many dicoveries about plant growth.
Soon after he arrived in Milan in 1482, he began to write down things that interested him. His notebooks show the great variety and originality of his scientific observations. He Ilustrated his theories with very beautiful and exact drawings. By studying his drawings of machines. 20th century engineers. With modern materials, have been able to build models that work perfectly. The notebooks are hard to read because Leonardo used mirror writing. He did not want his ideas to be stolen.
In. 1516 Leonardo left italy to become chief painter and engineer to King of France. The King gave him freedom to carry on his experiments.
While in France, Leonardo became paralyzed. He had to stop painting, but his mind remainded active. During his last years he received lots of visitors, who listened with great respect to the masters’s brilliant ideas about art and science. He died in this country on May 2, 1519.
Source : Encyclopedia
Wikipedia
Various Sources
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
PUBLIC SPEAKING
NEEDS STUDY AND PRACTISE
The term’ Public speaking” explains itself. It is the act of making a speech in public. The purpose of good public speaking is to add to the information ang knowledge of the listeners or do as the speaker advises. Speech making is very important for the work of such people as clergymen, lawyers, teachers and politicians. Public speaking, however, has importance for many others. Businessmen, labourers, and university students – these are but a few of those who use public speaking more and more each year.
Public speaking used to be called oratory. Oratory, which dates back to ancient Greece and Rome, is one of The oldest regular studies in Western civilization. Since those early
Times almost every generation of civilized men has spent much time in the study of the principles, rules, methods and practice of public speaking. For many centuries in Europe, shoolboys learned to make speeches in Latin. It was thought that if they could make good speeches in Latin. It was thought that if they could make good speeches in Latin, they certainly could do so in their native language.
Through the ages teachers and writers of books about public speaking have agreed that to be a good speaker a person does not only need natural ability or talent but study and practice as well. Some people area naturally better speakers than others. Nevertheles, through the study and practice of good speech-making the example of good speakers, most people can become fairly good speakers.
A person who make a public speech believes that lie has a message. He has something worth saying, and there is a group of people who ought to hear his message and take his advice. This means that a public speaker must know three basic things.
(1) He must know better than most people do the subject on which he will speak.
(2) He must Know, as nearly as possible, his audience’s needs, habits, wishes, and ways of thinking.
(3) He must know how to build his speeches so that they have the maximum effect upon the audience
In building his speech good speaker three very important matters in mind. First, he makes his ideas as easy as possible for his audience to understand. Second, he makes himself seem like a person whose advice on be trusted. Third. He makes his listeners want to understand, believe or do what he proposes.
If the idea are to be clear and understandable to listeners, the speech must be planned. To achieve this, a speaker usually makes sure that it has a real beginning, middle and end. More formally, a good speech has to have three parts, which are, an introduction, body and conclusion.
A lively, friendly introduction gets the attention and interest of listeners and lead s to the main idea. The body of a speech states the main idea. The body of a speech states the main ideas in good clear sentences. Each ideas should be filled with the various kinds of explanatory and supporting material.
The most useful kinds of material with which to explain or support ideas are (1) facts and information (2) examples or comparisons, and (3) opinions of influential persons. In The conclusion the speaker repeatrs the main ideas and persuades his listeners to follow a certain line of action or thought.
If the speech is to be clear. It must not only be well planned. In addition, the ideas should be expressed in language that is familiar to the listeners anf full meaning for them. The speaker should choose definite words instead of vague ones. Lively words instead of weak ones. He makes his sentences simple and straightforward. Not imaginary or doubtful. He should pay attention to his listeners needs. Not to his own performance.
The giving of a speech aloud before an audience is called the delivery. Agood speaker is easy to hear. His proununciation is sharp and correct. His voice is pleasant and lively.
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Qoni and the Jewels
Qonita was seventeen years old. She was very beautiful, and many men wanted to marry her . But Qoni was a foolish girl. She did not want to marry the men in her village. They were very good young men, But qoni said, “I am very beautiful. Why should I marry a villager ? I Also have many jewels. I shall marry a rich man from a town. I Want to Live in a large house and I don’t want to do any work in the house.
Qoni’s father was angry.”You are a foolish girl” He said. “ We don’t kno’w any rich people . You wouldn’t like living in a town. You will be happier in the village. Why don’t you marry Rama ? I Want you to marry him. He is a good, hard working boy “
But qoni said. : I shall marry a rich man.”
One day a man came to the village. He painted pictures. He saw Qoni. And he went to her father and said, “ Your daughter is very beatifull, I wan to paint her picture.”
Qoni’s father said. “ Yes it will be nice to have picture of Qoni.
The man came to the house every day and painted Qoni’s picture. One day he said to her, “ Your eyes are very beautiful. They are beautiful as jewels. Will you give me two jewels to put in the picture for your eyes?”
Qoni said “Yes” and gave him two black jewels for the eys.
The next day the man said, Your lips are also very beatifull. Will you give me two jewels to put in the picture for your lips?”
So Qoni gave him two red two red jewels for the lips.
The next day the painter said, “you have beautiful jewels in your ears an on your fingers. I cannot paint them.Will you give me your jewels for the picture? Then it will be the most beautiful picture in the world.”
Qoni took the jewels out of herears and off her fingers, and gave them to him. The man said. “I”ll take these these home with me. I can’t put them into the picture here. I’ll do it at home. Tomorrow I’ll bring the picture and you will see that it is the most beatifull picture in the worl” and he went away.
The evening Qoni’s father said to her. Qoni Where are your jewels?”
Qoni told him. “ I gave them to the man to put in my picture.”She said.” He wanted to make it as beautiful as I am.”
“your foolish girl” her father said.”We don’t know where the man lives/ Why did you listen to him?”
“ He’ll bring the picture tomorrow.” Qoni said. “it will be the most beautiful picture in the world.”
But the man didn’t came comeback. He went away from the village and took that all qoni’s jewels with him.
Qoni wa sad. She knew she had been very foolish to listen to the many’s talk. He didn’t think that she was the most beautiful girl in the world. He wanted her jewels, that was all.
Qoni is married now, She married Yusup. They live in the village and Qoni is very happy. One day Yusup tooke her to a town. But she didn’t like it.
“It’s nicer I the village, “ she said.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Self Organization
HAVE YOU ever had the feeling of knowing that tomorrow you have an exam and have only one night to study what should have taken three months?
Or, have you ever arrived at work or at school and tried to get to your place without the boss or teacher noticing that you are late ?
With a little bit of self organization, last minute studying can be avoided and arriving on time can become a habit.
For self organization you need time to plan what you are going to do every day, even if it is only for a few minutes, Some people find that the best time for making preparations it is at night-time before going to go sleep. You must consider what you time you need to go to sleep so you can get up in plenty of time to get to school or to work. It is important to have your clothes, books and other equipmenty for the next day.
One reason why students are late for school is that they stay up to watch late programmes on televisions. When they wake up in the morning. They have to find their clothes. Perhaps they forgot to tell their other the night before thay they need their sports clothes, so they have to wait while those clothes are ironed.
When they are ready to go to school case they have forgoten to put the book in their school case they have to spend five minutes searching for it. By the time they arrive at a school they are late.
Self organization is easy when it becomes a habit, and one habit that is necessary for self-organization is tidiness. A wise saying is “ A Place for everything in its place”. It is a lot easier to be organized if your clothes, books and other equipment have a special place so you always know exactly where everything is. This means that you need it.
If you use public transport you need to allow plenty of time. Sometimes your transports will travel slowly. After you have been traveling from home to your school or office for a few weeks, you will know how long it takes. Then you will be able to organize yourself so you are not late.
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Monalisa
The model of painting was monalisa, and the potrait itself was painted by Leonardo da Vinci probably in 1504 or 1505. The masterpiece now belongs lovre in the Paris, the Largest museum in the world, and one of the oldest.
Monalisa was a florentine lady and the wife of one leonardo’s friends with whom the artist got acquainted when he lived in the florence.
It said that leonardo secretely loved his model and adored her beauty.
Perhaps no one in history has achieved so much in many different as did Leonardo da Vinci.
He has often been called the world’s Supreme genius and certainly he possesed a great numbers of different talents
Thursday, January 1, 2009
LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF.
We are here presenting a set of questions concerning some situations that you may often face in your everyday life. For all questions we offer you the answers, but we don’t claim that the answers are absolutely right. The object is for each of you to learn about yourself, your attitudes and your motives.
Questions :
1. If you’re being introduced to somebody and you don’t catch the name clearly, should you ask for the name to be repeated?
2. When you meet strangers, should you try to look as charming and nice as possible?
3. When somebody expresses an opinions which is contrary to your basic principles, should you always defend them?
4. When you hear mistakes of fact in the casual conversations of you companion, should you try to correct them?
5. Should you help your friends because there may be a time when you need help from them?
6. Should you feel free to talk to your companions about your own interest or hobbies, even though they are not a bit interested in them?
7. To get along, even with strangers, do you need a collection of funny anecdotes to amuse them?
8. Should yo do whatever your friends ask for you, just to show them that you are a good friends of theirs?
Answers.:
1. Yes, this shows an interest in the persons, and it makes him feel important if you pay serious attention to his name.
2. No, the best policy is to be yourself, and not to pretend to be what you’re not.
3. Yes, Some people may disagree with this, but surendering to other people’s opinions on basic principles will not win your respect. As long as the defence is made in a reasonable and friendly way, no reasonable and friendly way, no reasonable person would think badly to you.
4. No, A man who is constanly pointing out other people’s mistakes is not an interesting person to have a talk with.
5. No, Everybody should certainly help his friends, but help should be given sincerely without any hidden purpose and not because a person may one day need help in return.
6. No. A little talk about them is fair enough, but you should not insist that other people take a great interest in what doest not interest them
7. Not necesssarily, A few stories may help, but if you repeat the same stories to someone who may have heard them before, your anecdotes will not be funny any more and you may even be regardes as abad joker who bores his listeners.
8. No. A real friend is laways willing to express his own views sincerely to his companion and to reject his demands when it is necessary for his own good. A difference in opinion often even enriches a genuine friendship.
Sunday, December 14, 2008
What is Curiosity ?
CURIOSITY CAN be defined as “ an eager desire to know”. Or as “ the desire to see or learn something that is new or unknown:.Curiosity is one of the most useful qualities that man has and it has proved to be great help to mankind. Mothers know well this quality. For they often hear curious questions from their children, such as, “Where di I come from?”””why is the sky blue?” “ How can God see me if I’m hiding ?”” and the like.
Curiosity is an intellectual element that distinguishes man from animal. Monkeys limit their travel to a hundred square kilometers at the most, while man has explored the four corners of the earth. He even wants to know what life is like on other planets, a question that has been causing him to explore space.
It was curiosity that ied Isaac Newton to discover the law of gravity, and it was this quality also that stimulated Jules Verne to create his famous novels of science-fiction. You can think of many examples of his kind.
But you have to remember that what we he mentioned is curiosity in the best sense of the term. Like all other instincts and qualities. Its use can he wise or foolish or even harmfull. There are different kinds of curiosity, bad as well as good. That is why it has also been defined in a bad sense as “inquisitiveness” in a ba sense “inquisitive” means “ too eager to know about other people’s affairs that are not your own business:. It is because 0f his kind of curiosity that you often hear someone say: “ Mind your own business.”.
There is yet another kind of curiosity that needs to be guarded against, because if not properly controlled, it might become a weakness rather than anadvantage.
You had better not be curious about things that can do you harm. For instance, many youths have become alcoholic addicts simply because of curiosity about what it is like to be drunk. If drinking becomes a habit or an addiction, it is very difficult for you to get rid of it.
Truly, curiosity is one of the greatest gifts with which God has equipped our minds. But it has to be wisely controlled. You have to realize what kind of curiosity you have in mind. Is it a curiosity that leads you an understanding of certain knowledge that will be useful to you or for the benefit of mankind? Is it a curiosity dircted towards religious questions that will lead you to a realization of the greatness of God?
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
SMOKING
Some people wrongly think that there are two kinds of tobacco, refined and non-refined, and that smoke of tobacco is refined by means of special filters, which is completely wrong. The clear scientific fact is that the filter prevents tar only to enter the lungs, while all other kinds of poisonous substances go through the filter into the lungs.
The dangerous thing about smoking is that its detrimental effects are innumerable, not only on the smoker himself but also on those around him: his wife, children, work-colleagues…etc. In other words, if one stays for four hours in a room where someone is smoking, it is as though one has smoked ten cigarettes. Such people are called “passive smokers” and are badly effected by tobacco smoke even if they do not smoke. Those who smoke and enjoy smoking cause harm to others unintentionally.
Some people might say that there are certain cases, rare as they are, in which one smokes but is not injured. But the answer to such claims: Are you sure that this very rare case apply to you?!
A very brilliant doctor, whose father was addicted to smoking but, nevertheless, lived for more than eighty years, wrongly thought that smoking is not detrimental at all. Therefore, he went on smoking excessively until, when he was fifty-two, he had a serious heart-disease. When he returned from America, after having had vein transplantation, he was asked: “How come that you smoke while you are a brilliant doctor?!” He replied regretfully, “I fancied through my father’s case that smoking is not detrimental!”
Can any of us ever be sure that he\she will be one of such rare cases in which a smoker is not badly affected by smoking?!
The indisputable fact is that neither the smoker himself nor his physician can ever be able to predict that he will be safe from the deadly dangers of smoking; and such rare cases as above-mentioned have very complicated explanations.
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Let us now try to study the detrimental effects of smoking on the different parts of the human body:
The Respiratory System:
What is the relationship between smoking and the respiratory system? Scientists hold that the worst smoking-effected parts of the human body is the respiratory system, because it is like a bunch of grapes, each grape is like a pulmonary vesicle in which the exchange between CO2 and O2, which is indispensable for human life, takes place. But what does smoking do to such pulmonary vesicles?
Smoking destroys tissues of pulmonary alveolus which are vesicles.
Inside the human windpipe there are cilia that are planted on the walls thereof. These cilia are always moving up in order to drive away any alien body that exists in the lungs and windpipe. But nicotine paralyzes these cilia, and therefore, these infections and remnants accumulate in the windpipe, because the mechanism of cilia, which should drive them away, is rendered inoperative by nicotine.
A smoker is more vulnerable to be infected with windpipe and lung diseases as well as emphysema. Moreover, there is an obvious positive relation between smoking and lung-cancer.
Calculations show that out of one thousand smokers, there are sixty who are infected with lung-cancer, whereas out of one thousand non-smokers, there are only two persons who are infected with such horrible disease.
Some scientists hold that poisons of tobacco cause mutations in the cell which are caused by scratches, and which, in turn, cause cancer of tissues.
The heart and blood vessels:
Most of the deadly cardiac and vascular diseases are attributed to smoking.
Physicians of heart surgery state that most of the surgical operations they carry out on the heart are necessitated by smoking-related diseases.
A man with throat cancer once came to an otolaryngologist, who suddenly put his hand over the man’s chest to find a packet of cigarettes. He exclaimed: “Cancer comes from this packet.”
The first reason for these fatal diseases is that the poison of nicotine combines with hemoglobin and thus terminates one of the most important biological operations, which is exchange between O2 and CO2.
I would like to draw your attention to a very important fact, namely that Allah, the Almighty, has honored man by providing him with very complicated apparatuses and mechanisms in order to protect him from the different dangers around him. Hence, if one of us sees a frightening thing, like a snake for example, what happens to him? The picture of this snake is imprinted on his retina, which transmits the picture to the brain through the optical nerves. The brain recognizes this picture according to the previously acquired conceptions. The brain, which is the king of the nervous system, orders the pituitary gland, which is the queen of the hormone system, to deal with this situation. This queen, i.e. the pituitary gland, has effective hormone elements. It sends an order to the adrenal gland in order to excrete five hormones: the first one accelerates the heart-beating; the second increases the work of lungs; the third narrows surrounding blood vessels in order that blood goes to the muscles and not to the skin; the fourth increases sugar in the blood; and the fifth increases the hormone of thrombosis. All of this happens thanks to the hormone of adrenaline excreted by the adrenal gland.
Therefore, when man is afraid of something, his heart-beat and his lung-palpitation increase, his vessels’ orifices narrow and, therefore, he becomes pale. The rate of sugar in the blood and that of the hormone of thrombosis both increase. The poison of nicotine performs the same function as that of the adrenaline. Hence, the heart-beat of a smoker, and his lung-palpitation increase, his vessels’ orifices narrow, and the rate of sugar in his blood and the hormone of adrenaline both increase. Therefore, he is eight times more vulnerable to be infected with thrombus than others.
One of the reasons for chronic diseases is smoking, since smoking increases the rate of viscidity in blood, which makes it difficult for the blood to pass through narrow vessels. Thus, one’s lower limbs begin to die out.
Smoking causes a rare disease which is called “inflammation of embolism”, for when vessels become inflamed, their apertures are closed due to lack of blood in the limbs’ vessels; and, hence, the limbs begin to die out.
There is another disease which affects smokers, some of whose symptoms are cyanosis and erythrism.
The brain and nerves:
The human brain is the noblest part of man. It includes one hundred and forty milliard supporting cells whose function is not known yet. It also includes fourteen milliard cortical cells, which are the domain of man’s intellectual activities. It is the most complicated apparatus in man, and man is, in turn, the most complicated machine in the universe.
But what does smoking do to the human brain?
If poisons of smoking reach the brain, it receives them easily and voraciously; and therefore, man soon feels a little narcotized. Nicotine, which is dissolved in the blood, and which reaches the brain, makes man feel sometimes narcotized and sometimes active. This is because tobacco smoke is both assuasive and activating at the same time; and this is the secret behind addiction.
This poison, which gets into the brain, weakens the brain-nerves and causes nerve-inflammation. One of the great many bad effects of this poison on the nerves is constant trembling of limbs. A smoker’s hands and legs are constantly trembling because of the brain-nerve inflammation resulting from lack of blood supply to the brain.
The sense of taste of smokers weakens; and they also suffer headaches, pain in the limbs, weakness of memory and forgetfulness. Another nerve-related symptom of smoking is weakness of intellectual activity; therefore, a non-smoker is usually cleverer and faster in responding to stimuli than a smoker.
Scientific research, which included 6800 cases, showed clearly the existence of a negative relationship between smoking and intelligence.
The eye:
It has been found out that smoking causes conjunctivitis, dryness of eye-lids, and inflammation of optic nerves. It also causes lack of vitamin (B12).
The digestive system:
90 % of lip-cancer cases are found among smokers, who are also exposed greatly to tongue-cancer, esophagus, gum and tongue ulceration, inflammation and hypertrophy of salivary glands, and sometimes difficulty in swallowing. Moreover, smoking causes poisoning of liver-cells, cirrhosis, and liver-cancer.
The genital system:
Smoking is one of the main reasons for sexual impotence. It causes deformity of sperms, sterility of both men and women, and it spoils the relationship between spouses. Most of the cases of abortion, premature and dead-born babies, under-weight, high rate of birth-deaths, deformation, infant death, infant asthma, and deaf-born babies are caused by mother-smoking.
The incredible thing about smoking is that the new-born baby receives its poisonous effects directly from the milk of a smoker-mother. Therefore, continual vomiting, spasm, and increase of hear-beat of new-born babies are all caused by mother-smoking.
Intensity of smoke poisons in the breast of a smoker-woman results in breast-cancer.
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Due to lack of information about the dangers of smoking, Muslim scholars previously differed as regards prohibition of smoking. In his book “Al-Hashiah”, which is considered as one of the largest encyclopedias of the Hanifite school of Islamic jurisprudence, Ibn Aabdeen says, “Some scholars said that it is prohibited, others said it is reprehensible, and others said it is permissible. That was because its dangers on the human body were not known to them, and in Islam all things are initially lawful. Therefore, when some scholars previously made smoking lawful, this was because of their lack of knowledge about its harms. Had they known its harms, they would have prohibited it more than we do.”
There is a basic rule in Islam, namely that all things are initially lawful unless there is textual evidence of prohibition. However, this does not apply to kinds of worships and devotional services, which are strictly revelation-specific.
Having displayed such clear definitive facts about the dangers of smoking, it goes without saying that it is strongly prohibited. This is because Allah, the Almighty, sent His Messenger, Muhammad, (PBUH), as a mercy for all mankind, and in order to make lawful for them what is good, and prohibit what is evil or detrimental.
Is there a single sane person who takes out a cigarette and says before smoking: “In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful”; and when he finishes, he says: “Praise be to Allah. O Allah! Increase these Favors upon us.”?!! This is impossible. Hence, this is a natural evidence that smoking is unlawful.
Allah, the Almighty, says: “Those who follow the Messenger, the unlettered Prophet, whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures) – in the Torah and the Gospel – for he commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil; he allows them as lawful what is good (and pure) and prohibits them from what is bad (and impure); he releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that are upon them. So it is those who believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down with him – it is they who will prosper.” [VII ; 157]
There is another serious fact, namely that out of one hundred persons who drink wine, fifteen become addicted thereto; whereas, out of one hundred smokers, there are eighty five ones who become addicted to smoking. Hence, the percentage of addiction to smoking is much higher than that of addiction to wine.
Statistical data in America shows that victims of smoking in the USA, alone, are 350,000 persons a year. This means that every day, one thousand smokers die because of smoking. Also, 50,000 negative smokers, who do not smoke, but their parents, relatives, or friends do, die every year.
The number of those who die because of smoking in one of the western countries is 400,000 ones, i.e. more than 1,000 people every day.
Tobacco that is imported, or smuggled, from the USA is both very bad and harmful, because the rate of its poisons is ten times more than those of any other kind of tobacco. In other words, the packet, trademark, and price are the same, but tobacco that the USA exports to the countries of the Middle East is of the worst quality.
An Egyptian scientist heard that leaves of tobacco are soaked in wine. So he went to America in order to see that with his own eyes before he writes about it. He saw, with his own eyes, that leaves of tobacco there are soaked in wine before they are made into cigarettes; so he wrote a book about that. Hence, when one hears any of such American brands being advertised: “Come to where the flavor is!”, it is actually the flavor of wine in which it has been soaked!
A research that has been recently made in England on eighty three smokers shows that out of ten smokers three will certainly die because of diseases caused by smoking and the others will inevitably suffer from smoking-related chronic diseases.
Concerning losses incurred by fires caused by cigarette-ends, they are far more than all of the profits of all tobacco companies or the taxes received from this industry.
In one of the most beautiful forests of our country an ignorant picnicker once threw a cigarette-end and caused two hundred and fifty hectares of green woods to burn. All such enormous loss was due to one single cigarette-end.
Some smokers may wrongly think: “Well, we do not suffer from any thing, we can walk and run; and we have good health although we are smokers.” Actually, such people are ignorant of a serious fact, namely that harms of smoking accumulate in the human body until it is time to show out when its physical defense mechanism finally collapses, just as happens when one puts on a pan of a balance five kilograms and then starts putting on the second pan one, two, three, four kilograms and the first scale is still inclined; but as soon as one adds five kilograms and a few more grams, the second pan begins to move down. What makes this pan move down? Is it the last few grams?!! No…What makes it move down is the previous accumulations of all the weights. It is just like the straw that is said to have broken the back of the camel!
One of the western scientists says: “Companies of tobacco are companies of murder, or companies which trade in death.”
A handsome man, whom companies of tobacco used to employ for advertising their products, used to appear in cowboy clothes and a nice hat on his head inviting people to smoke the brand he was made to advertise, died at a very young age because of smoking. When he was on the death-bed, he said most regretfully, “I was lying to you; smoking has killed me. Never be victims of evil cheating! Do not be easy prey to dishonest advertisements of dishonest companies that seek only financial profit even at the expense of the health of other fellow humans!” In this context, Allah, the Almighty, says: “And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah, and make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good; for Allah loves those who do good.” [II ; 195]
Those who smoke actually contribute to their own destruction. Allah, Most Gracious, says: “O you who believe! Eat not up your property among yourselves in vanities; but let there be amongst you trade by mutual good will; nor kill (or destroy) yourselves, for verily Allah has been to you Most Merciful” [IV ; 29]
Islam strongly prohibits committing suicide; and smoking has been described by scientists as a slow suicide. In fact, there are two kinds of suicide: a fast one, as when one stabs oneself with a knife in a deadly place of his body, and a slow one, namely “smoking”. Allah, All-Mighty, strongly bids mankind: “Do not kill yourselves!”
Abu Houraira (May Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “Whosoever throws himself from a mountain and, thus, kills himself, he will be thrown in Hell-Fire forever and ever. Whosoever drinks a poison and, thus, kills himself, his poison will be in his hand, and he will drink thereof in Hell-Fire forever and ever. Whosoever kills himself by a piece of iron, his piece of iron will be in his hand, and he will stab his abdomen therewith in Hell-fire forever and ever.”
Moreover, the Prophet (PBUH) prohibited all kinds of intoxicants or anesthetics. Umm Salama said: “The Prophet (PBUH) prohibited all kinds of intoxicants or anesthetics.”
A poor smoker is best called “a Fool”, and a rich one is best called “a Spendthrift”. And Allah, All-Wise, says: “Verily spendthrifts are brothers of Shayateen (devils); and the Shaytan (Devil-Satan) is ever ungrateful to his Lord.” [XVII ; 27]
If the vast Tobacco-fields were planted with vegetables and fruits, instead of tobacco, things would be much better, income would increase, people would be healthier, and all mankind would be far more prosperous and happy.
Smoking has been declared unlawful by a great many Muslim religious scholars, most prominent of whom are: the greatest scholar of the Ottoman State, Sheikh Ibrahim Al-Laqqani, Sheikh Salem As-Sunbouri, the Mufti of K.S.A., Sheikh Badr Ad-Deen Al-Hasani, Sheikh Ali Ad-Daqr, and Sheikh Muhammad Al-Hamid.
The head of Al-Azhar scolars, Jad Al-Haq, may Allah have mercy on him, delivered the following religious judgment about smoking: “It has become very clear that smoking, with all of its different brands and methods of use, causes a great harm to man, sooner or later, in both his soul and money. It inflects him with various and numerous kinds of diseases. Therefore, it is strongly prohibited and considered as unlawful by virtue of the textual evidences which have been mentioned previously. Hence, in view of preserving people’s souls and money and avoiding its detrimental effects, it is considered unlawful for a Muslim to use it (tobacco) under all circumstances.”
All of the above-mentioned facts have been taken from international health organizations, high standard universities, or advanced research centers.
A committee of prominent medical scientists presented a 387-page report, entitled “Smoking and Health”, confirming deadly dangers of smoking.
A prominent Swiss magazine issued the following report supported with adequate statistical data: Tobacco companies in the world produce two cigarettes a day for every man on earth. In other words, they produce 10,000,000,000 cigarettes a day. The amount of poisonous substances included in that amazingly great number of cigarettes produced everyday would cause immediate death to all mankind if they were injected into their blood, which is far greater and more serious than that of the biggest atomic bomb.
In 1975, The International Health Organization published a detailed account, in which it states: The number of those who die or lead a miserable life because of smoking are more than the total number of those who die of such fatal diseases and epidemics as pestilence, cholera, variola, tuberculosis, leprosy, typhoid, and typhus. The number of smoking-caused cases of death greatly out-number those caused by all other cases of death.
The total amount of taxes imposed by the developed countries on tobacco companies is far lesser than that spent on the treatment of smoking-related diseases.
Furthermore, a new phenomenon has come into existence, namely that diseases of the heart, blood vessels, and blood-diseases, which do not usually show before the age of sixty, are now showing up much earlier due to smoking. There are now a great many cases of heart-attacks and sudden death at the age of thirty, twenty-five, or even twenty-two, all because of smoking.
Priorities of human life are three things, the most important of which is “right guidance”, the second is “good health”, and the third is “self-sufficiency”. In other words, self-sufficiency is meaningless without good health; and good health is meaningless without right guidance. Physical health is a basic pillar of a believer’s life, as it enables him to accomplish his being Allah’s Viceroy on earth, to fulfill the mission for which he has been created, and to enjoy His Lord’s Guidance and Provision. Hence, when he gets to know that smoking destroys his health, it will be completely unreasonable and unwise that he should smoke even one single cigarette.
Allah says: “Those who follow the Messenger, the unlettered Prophet, whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures) – in the Torah and the Gospel – for he commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil; he allows them as lawful what is good (and pure) and prohibits them from what is bad (and impure); he releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that are upon them. So it is those who believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down with him – it is they who will prosper.” [VII ; 157]
SOURCE : NABULSI
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Introspection
What actually is introspection ? Introspection means observation or examination of one’s own thought and feelings. There are two things in this definition to which we should pay special attention : first. The phrase “one’s own”, and the second, the words “ thoughts and feelings,”
You certainly know that what “one’s own”means. The phrase refers to the idea that the examination or observation concerned is not to limitedto particular person. It means that the suggestion about introspection has to do with all of us, including the person who prposes the idea himself. Then, in introspection, the observation can only be properly carried out by by the person concerned, and not by any person other than him alone.
Now, what do the word “thought and feelings” mean in this case? As you know, what ever deed we perform is the product or reflectionof what we have in imind. A man’s deeds are the products or reflection of what we have in mind. A man’s deeds are the products of his thoughts and feelings.
Consequently, if we want to try introspection, it automatically means that we should also carry out an examination of everything we have done.
Generally we are more or less displeased when someone criticizes us. Usually we think ourselves to be right and the other person to be wrong.
If we did something wrong, usually we would tend to seek for a pretext to justify it, even though our conscience admitted it secretly.
It is therefore obvious that in introspection, honesty –particularly honesty to oneself – is the most essential thing required. If we fail to fulfill this basic requirement, the introspection will be of no effect.
If we have not enough courage to be honest to other people (because, as a matter of fact, honesty requires bravery), at least we should try to be truthfull to ourselves, that is, to be true to our own conscience.
Thus, the suggestion about introspection actually contains a hint to be honest to oneself. We should make a sincese observation of our thoughts and feelings, and also of all we have done.
The observation is of course not to important for its own sake. It is required to realize and discover our own faults in order to improve ourselves.
Introspections is indeed a very good idea. But it is not an idea to be suggested only to other people. It is our own requirement. If we really want to improve , the basic matter is not to be a good person. But that today we should be better than yesterday and tomorrow we should be better than today.
Introspection should be done by of all of us.
Monday, December 1, 2008
Lets be Logical
We are sometimes surprised to know about some of the powers that we have because we are so used to taking them for granted. For instance, some readers may be surprised to learn that all of us use logic every day. In fact , everything that is ever said can be called either logical or non-logical.
When someone says, “ I am hungry, so I must eat”, he is making a logical statement. When someone says, : I am hungry, so I must eat”, he is making a logical statement. When someone says , “ I want to eat”, he is being non-logical. (You should note that nor-logical does not mean illogical.
An Illogical statement is a statement that is contrary to the rule of logic. Like this statement : “ I am hungry, so I must sing”. A non-logical statement is a statement that cannot be argued or disputed any further.
Wheter we know it or not, then, all of us are logical creatures. To say that we use logic means that we reason, and there is no normal human being who does not capable of reasoning.
Therefore no man can admit that he is more able to distinguish truth from error than other man. You may admit that you are clerever that your friend, or that you have become more educated or obtained more knowledge, but no normal man can be said to have less ability to distinguish between truth and mistake, provided that he is given chance to know the real fact clearly.
The chief difference between the understanding power of one person and that of another is due to the fact that some people use proper methods of thinking or reasoning, while others do not.
We are able to understand, and we may improve our understanding power by using the right method of thinking. The right methode will help us solve our problems more successfully. Whether they are problem concerning science, or business, or social relations, or Love.
Sometimes a man wont’t be convinced by logical argument, because pride or some other emotion is controlling his mind. No one can be rational or reasonable when emotion dominates his thoughts.
Emotion is useless when you are solving an arithmetic problem. Whether you like it or not. Two times three is six, whether it is in the United States or in The Soviet Union. Emotion isdangerous for a judge when he is presiding at a legal trial. Is the accused man guilty of a crime? If he says. “ No, because I hate him”, he is not thinking rationally, and he is not a good judge, because a good judge has be rational and reasonable studying the evidence.
It is true that we of the think irrationally, but we are capable of being reasonable, but we are capable of being reasonable and logical. We ought to use reason and logic whenever the circumstances require them. Logic is required when we deal with the task of examining evidence or proofs.
The logical man never forgets that perhaps he is wrong and the other person he is wrong and the other person is right. He is always ready to test his own opinion with the evidence, and to change his opinion as the evidence changes. The reasonable man never believes in the absoluteness of hie own views.
Sunday, November 30, 2008
Desires Have Limits.
MAN HAS VARIOUS desires. He has instinctive desires such as appetite for food and spriritual ones such as the wish for honour, acknowledgement, knowledge and beauty. He desires to do certainkinds of work in order to make the the best of himself. According to his character, capability, talent and environment, each man differs from others his desires. But no normal man is completely without desires. If man had no desires, there would be no activity, no culture and no arts. Because he has desires, man does all sorts of things to fulfill them. In that sense you can say that desires are the source and motivating power of all human activity.
Since you cannot wipe these desires out, it is important for you treat then properly and to place them in the correct proportions. What does this Mean?
Man’s desires are never as completely fulfilled as he want them to be, because when one is fulfilled, another takes its place, and when that is obtained he wants a third, and so on and on. Since desiresdevelopen endlessly, the attempt to find unlimited satisfaction can cause many problem, especially when efforts to fulfill them cause trouble to other people.
It is allright for you you try to satisfy you desires, but do it such a way as not to cause other people to suffer. If you give trouble to other people, it means that you are inviting a new problem for yourself, and in turn it will create another desire for you.
You should always remember that youu are not the only person who has desires.Yo May have to associate with a companion whose desires conflict with your won.
In addition to that, you should always know and realize the limits of your capability to achieveyour desires .Yoo should be reasonable wioth your ideals. For perhaps even as simple one . if circurtamce do not permits cannot be fulfilled satistfactorily. Don’t set your objective too high, because if you fall, the fall is far more painfull from a higher place than from alower one. Yo will suffer more servere frustration or you may even becomes seriously depressed.
Genuine Parental Love
Real Love enables parents to see when their children are disturbed, disappointed, trobled or heading for trouble. It enables them to discover some shortcomings or faults in their children, not just for the sake of finding the faults in their children. Not just for the sake of finding the faults in themselves. But in order to improve the children they love.
Parents who don’t they love their children often don’t know where their children go and what activities their children participate in. They don’t know if the children have friends who offer them drugs or encourage them to steal.ome children get into a lot of trouble because their parents don’t care about them.
There are parents who try to show their love for their children by giving them everything they ask for. As a result the children by giving them ask for . As a result the children become spoilt and selfish. Real love enables parents to see that not everything their children want willhelp them to improve and grow up in the best way.
Parents who really love their children will find time not only tell them what to do, but also to listen to their children . As a result of two way communication, parents and children can learn to understand each other . Children will realize that theior parents have a reason for decisions.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
pray for my father
In the Name Allah, The Beneficent the Mercifull
Robbirhamhumaa kamaa robbayaanii shoghiiroo
“And Lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy and say. My Lord ! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little” [Al Israa’:24]
Robbighfir lii wa li waalidayya wa li man dakhola baytiya mu’minan wa lilmu’miniina wal mu’minaati wa laa tazidizh zhoolimiina illa tabaaro
“My Lord! Forgive me and my farents and him who entereth my house believing men and believing women, and increase not the wrong – doers in aught save ruin” [Nuh:28]
Robbighfir lii wa li waalidayya warhamhumaa kamaa robbayaanii shoghiiroo
Monday, November 24, 2008
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Is Love Really Blind ?
THERE IS A saying that “love is Blind:, it refers to an erotic love when a young lover is unable to see any shortcomings in the person with whom he or she is in love.
In this case, it is not the love itself that is blind, but the erostic mood of the person concerned maked him blind to the real situation.
Not that the faults in his opposite sex, but he just won’t see them.
He always tends to get rid of any sensible and critical thoughts about the persons he loves.
But real love is actually not blind! It has eyes and can even help you to see many things that you otherwise won’t be able to see. Genuine love can see boths faults and the good in other persons.
It has eyes that see deeper than what appears merely on the surface. It is so sincere that it cannot be influenced by physical appearances and the feelings of like and dislike.
Genuine love has eyes also because it is not blinded by pride, prejudice or greed. It able to see fine qualities in others. Not looking down on them foreign ancestors. Adifferent skin clour or come from different etnic region.
