CURIOSITY CAN be defined as “ an eager desire to know”. Or as “ the desire to see or learn something that is new or unknown:.Curiosity is one of the most useful qualities that man has and it has proved to be great help to mankind. Mothers know well this quality. For they often hear curious questions from their children, such as, “Where di I come from?”””why is the sky blue?” “ How can God see me if I’m hiding ?”” and the like.
Curiosity is an intellectual element that distinguishes man from animal. Monkeys limit their travel to a hundred square kilometers at the most, while man has explored the four corners of the earth. He even wants to know what life is like on other planets, a question that has been causing him to explore space.
It was curiosity that ied Isaac Newton to discover the law of gravity, and it was this quality also that stimulated Jules Verne to create his famous novels of science-fiction. You can think of many examples of his kind.
But you have to remember that what we he mentioned is curiosity in the best sense of the term. Like all other instincts and qualities. Its use can he wise or foolish or even harmfull. There are different kinds of curiosity, bad as well as good. That is why it has also been defined in a bad sense as “inquisitiveness” in a ba sense “inquisitive” means “ too eager to know about other people’s affairs that are not your own business:. It is because 0f his kind of curiosity that you often hear someone say: “ Mind your own business.”.
There is yet another kind of curiosity that needs to be guarded against, because if not properly controlled, it might become a weakness rather than anadvantage.
You had better not be curious about things that can do you harm. For instance, many youths have become alcoholic addicts simply because of curiosity about what it is like to be drunk. If drinking becomes a habit or an addiction, it is very difficult for you to get rid of it.
Truly, curiosity is one of the greatest gifts with which God has equipped our minds. But it has to be wisely controlled. You have to realize what kind of curiosity you have in mind. Is it a curiosity that leads you an understanding of certain knowledge that will be useful to you or for the benefit of mankind? Is it a curiosity dircted towards religious questions that will lead you to a realization of the greatness of God?
GEOGLOBE
Sunday, December 14, 2008
What is Curiosity ?
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
SMOKING
Some people wrongly think that there are two kinds of tobacco, refined and non-refined, and that smoke of tobacco is refined by means of special filters, which is completely wrong. The clear scientific fact is that the filter prevents tar only to enter the lungs, while all other kinds of poisonous substances go through the filter into the lungs.
The dangerous thing about smoking is that its detrimental effects are innumerable, not only on the smoker himself but also on those around him: his wife, children, work-colleagues…etc. In other words, if one stays for four hours in a room where someone is smoking, it is as though one has smoked ten cigarettes. Such people are called “passive smokers” and are badly effected by tobacco smoke even if they do not smoke. Those who smoke and enjoy smoking cause harm to others unintentionally.
Some people might say that there are certain cases, rare as they are, in which one smokes but is not injured. But the answer to such claims: Are you sure that this very rare case apply to you?!
A very brilliant doctor, whose father was addicted to smoking but, nevertheless, lived for more than eighty years, wrongly thought that smoking is not detrimental at all. Therefore, he went on smoking excessively until, when he was fifty-two, he had a serious heart-disease. When he returned from America, after having had vein transplantation, he was asked: “How come that you smoke while you are a brilliant doctor?!” He replied regretfully, “I fancied through my father’s case that smoking is not detrimental!”
Can any of us ever be sure that he\she will be one of such rare cases in which a smoker is not badly affected by smoking?!
The indisputable fact is that neither the smoker himself nor his physician can ever be able to predict that he will be safe from the deadly dangers of smoking; and such rare cases as above-mentioned have very complicated explanations.
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Let us now try to study the detrimental effects of smoking on the different parts of the human body:
The Respiratory System:
What is the relationship between smoking and the respiratory system? Scientists hold that the worst smoking-effected parts of the human body is the respiratory system, because it is like a bunch of grapes, each grape is like a pulmonary vesicle in which the exchange between CO2 and O2, which is indispensable for human life, takes place. But what does smoking do to such pulmonary vesicles?
Smoking destroys tissues of pulmonary alveolus which are vesicles.
Inside the human windpipe there are cilia that are planted on the walls thereof. These cilia are always moving up in order to drive away any alien body that exists in the lungs and windpipe. But nicotine paralyzes these cilia, and therefore, these infections and remnants accumulate in the windpipe, because the mechanism of cilia, which should drive them away, is rendered inoperative by nicotine.
A smoker is more vulnerable to be infected with windpipe and lung diseases as well as emphysema. Moreover, there is an obvious positive relation between smoking and lung-cancer.
Calculations show that out of one thousand smokers, there are sixty who are infected with lung-cancer, whereas out of one thousand non-smokers, there are only two persons who are infected with such horrible disease.
Some scientists hold that poisons of tobacco cause mutations in the cell which are caused by scratches, and which, in turn, cause cancer of tissues.
The heart and blood vessels:
Most of the deadly cardiac and vascular diseases are attributed to smoking.
Physicians of heart surgery state that most of the surgical operations they carry out on the heart are necessitated by smoking-related diseases.
A man with throat cancer once came to an otolaryngologist, who suddenly put his hand over the man’s chest to find a packet of cigarettes. He exclaimed: “Cancer comes from this packet.”
The first reason for these fatal diseases is that the poison of nicotine combines with hemoglobin and thus terminates one of the most important biological operations, which is exchange between O2 and CO2.
I would like to draw your attention to a very important fact, namely that Allah, the Almighty, has honored man by providing him with very complicated apparatuses and mechanisms in order to protect him from the different dangers around him. Hence, if one of us sees a frightening thing, like a snake for example, what happens to him? The picture of this snake is imprinted on his retina, which transmits the picture to the brain through the optical nerves. The brain recognizes this picture according to the previously acquired conceptions. The brain, which is the king of the nervous system, orders the pituitary gland, which is the queen of the hormone system, to deal with this situation. This queen, i.e. the pituitary gland, has effective hormone elements. It sends an order to the adrenal gland in order to excrete five hormones: the first one accelerates the heart-beating; the second increases the work of lungs; the third narrows surrounding blood vessels in order that blood goes to the muscles and not to the skin; the fourth increases sugar in the blood; and the fifth increases the hormone of thrombosis. All of this happens thanks to the hormone of adrenaline excreted by the adrenal gland.
Therefore, when man is afraid of something, his heart-beat and his lung-palpitation increase, his vessels’ orifices narrow and, therefore, he becomes pale. The rate of sugar in the blood and that of the hormone of thrombosis both increase. The poison of nicotine performs the same function as that of the adrenaline. Hence, the heart-beat of a smoker, and his lung-palpitation increase, his vessels’ orifices narrow, and the rate of sugar in his blood and the hormone of adrenaline both increase. Therefore, he is eight times more vulnerable to be infected with thrombus than others.
One of the reasons for chronic diseases is smoking, since smoking increases the rate of viscidity in blood, which makes it difficult for the blood to pass through narrow vessels. Thus, one’s lower limbs begin to die out.
Smoking causes a rare disease which is called “inflammation of embolism”, for when vessels become inflamed, their apertures are closed due to lack of blood in the limbs’ vessels; and, hence, the limbs begin to die out.
There is another disease which affects smokers, some of whose symptoms are cyanosis and erythrism.
The brain and nerves:
The human brain is the noblest part of man. It includes one hundred and forty milliard supporting cells whose function is not known yet. It also includes fourteen milliard cortical cells, which are the domain of man’s intellectual activities. It is the most complicated apparatus in man, and man is, in turn, the most complicated machine in the universe.
But what does smoking do to the human brain?
If poisons of smoking reach the brain, it receives them easily and voraciously; and therefore, man soon feels a little narcotized. Nicotine, which is dissolved in the blood, and which reaches the brain, makes man feel sometimes narcotized and sometimes active. This is because tobacco smoke is both assuasive and activating at the same time; and this is the secret behind addiction.
This poison, which gets into the brain, weakens the brain-nerves and causes nerve-inflammation. One of the great many bad effects of this poison on the nerves is constant trembling of limbs. A smoker’s hands and legs are constantly trembling because of the brain-nerve inflammation resulting from lack of blood supply to the brain.
The sense of taste of smokers weakens; and they also suffer headaches, pain in the limbs, weakness of memory and forgetfulness. Another nerve-related symptom of smoking is weakness of intellectual activity; therefore, a non-smoker is usually cleverer and faster in responding to stimuli than a smoker.
Scientific research, which included 6800 cases, showed clearly the existence of a negative relationship between smoking and intelligence.
The eye:
It has been found out that smoking causes conjunctivitis, dryness of eye-lids, and inflammation of optic nerves. It also causes lack of vitamin (B12).
The digestive system:
90 % of lip-cancer cases are found among smokers, who are also exposed greatly to tongue-cancer, esophagus, gum and tongue ulceration, inflammation and hypertrophy of salivary glands, and sometimes difficulty in swallowing. Moreover, smoking causes poisoning of liver-cells, cirrhosis, and liver-cancer.
The genital system:
Smoking is one of the main reasons for sexual impotence. It causes deformity of sperms, sterility of both men and women, and it spoils the relationship between spouses. Most of the cases of abortion, premature and dead-born babies, under-weight, high rate of birth-deaths, deformation, infant death, infant asthma, and deaf-born babies are caused by mother-smoking.
The incredible thing about smoking is that the new-born baby receives its poisonous effects directly from the milk of a smoker-mother. Therefore, continual vomiting, spasm, and increase of hear-beat of new-born babies are all caused by mother-smoking.
Intensity of smoke poisons in the breast of a smoker-woman results in breast-cancer.
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Due to lack of information about the dangers of smoking, Muslim scholars previously differed as regards prohibition of smoking. In his book “Al-Hashiah”, which is considered as one of the largest encyclopedias of the Hanifite school of Islamic jurisprudence, Ibn Aabdeen says, “Some scholars said that it is prohibited, others said it is reprehensible, and others said it is permissible. That was because its dangers on the human body were not known to them, and in Islam all things are initially lawful. Therefore, when some scholars previously made smoking lawful, this was because of their lack of knowledge about its harms. Had they known its harms, they would have prohibited it more than we do.”
There is a basic rule in Islam, namely that all things are initially lawful unless there is textual evidence of prohibition. However, this does not apply to kinds of worships and devotional services, which are strictly revelation-specific.
Having displayed such clear definitive facts about the dangers of smoking, it goes without saying that it is strongly prohibited. This is because Allah, the Almighty, sent His Messenger, Muhammad, (PBUH), as a mercy for all mankind, and in order to make lawful for them what is good, and prohibit what is evil or detrimental.
Is there a single sane person who takes out a cigarette and says before smoking: “In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful”; and when he finishes, he says: “Praise be to Allah. O Allah! Increase these Favors upon us.”?!! This is impossible. Hence, this is a natural evidence that smoking is unlawful.
Allah, the Almighty, says: “Those who follow the Messenger, the unlettered Prophet, whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures) – in the Torah and the Gospel – for he commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil; he allows them as lawful what is good (and pure) and prohibits them from what is bad (and impure); he releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that are upon them. So it is those who believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down with him – it is they who will prosper.” [VII ; 157]
There is another serious fact, namely that out of one hundred persons who drink wine, fifteen become addicted thereto; whereas, out of one hundred smokers, there are eighty five ones who become addicted to smoking. Hence, the percentage of addiction to smoking is much higher than that of addiction to wine.
Statistical data in America shows that victims of smoking in the USA, alone, are 350,000 persons a year. This means that every day, one thousand smokers die because of smoking. Also, 50,000 negative smokers, who do not smoke, but their parents, relatives, or friends do, die every year.
The number of those who die because of smoking in one of the western countries is 400,000 ones, i.e. more than 1,000 people every day.
Tobacco that is imported, or smuggled, from the USA is both very bad and harmful, because the rate of its poisons is ten times more than those of any other kind of tobacco. In other words, the packet, trademark, and price are the same, but tobacco that the USA exports to the countries of the Middle East is of the worst quality.
An Egyptian scientist heard that leaves of tobacco are soaked in wine. So he went to America in order to see that with his own eyes before he writes about it. He saw, with his own eyes, that leaves of tobacco there are soaked in wine before they are made into cigarettes; so he wrote a book about that. Hence, when one hears any of such American brands being advertised: “Come to where the flavor is!”, it is actually the flavor of wine in which it has been soaked!
A research that has been recently made in England on eighty three smokers shows that out of ten smokers three will certainly die because of diseases caused by smoking and the others will inevitably suffer from smoking-related chronic diseases.
Concerning losses incurred by fires caused by cigarette-ends, they are far more than all of the profits of all tobacco companies or the taxes received from this industry.
In one of the most beautiful forests of our country an ignorant picnicker once threw a cigarette-end and caused two hundred and fifty hectares of green woods to burn. All such enormous loss was due to one single cigarette-end.
Some smokers may wrongly think: “Well, we do not suffer from any thing, we can walk and run; and we have good health although we are smokers.” Actually, such people are ignorant of a serious fact, namely that harms of smoking accumulate in the human body until it is time to show out when its physical defense mechanism finally collapses, just as happens when one puts on a pan of a balance five kilograms and then starts putting on the second pan one, two, three, four kilograms and the first scale is still inclined; but as soon as one adds five kilograms and a few more grams, the second pan begins to move down. What makes this pan move down? Is it the last few grams?!! No…What makes it move down is the previous accumulations of all the weights. It is just like the straw that is said to have broken the back of the camel!
One of the western scientists says: “Companies of tobacco are companies of murder, or companies which trade in death.”
A handsome man, whom companies of tobacco used to employ for advertising their products, used to appear in cowboy clothes and a nice hat on his head inviting people to smoke the brand he was made to advertise, died at a very young age because of smoking. When he was on the death-bed, he said most regretfully, “I was lying to you; smoking has killed me. Never be victims of evil cheating! Do not be easy prey to dishonest advertisements of dishonest companies that seek only financial profit even at the expense of the health of other fellow humans!” In this context, Allah, the Almighty, says: “And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah, and make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good; for Allah loves those who do good.” [II ; 195]
Those who smoke actually contribute to their own destruction. Allah, Most Gracious, says: “O you who believe! Eat not up your property among yourselves in vanities; but let there be amongst you trade by mutual good will; nor kill (or destroy) yourselves, for verily Allah has been to you Most Merciful” [IV ; 29]
Islam strongly prohibits committing suicide; and smoking has been described by scientists as a slow suicide. In fact, there are two kinds of suicide: a fast one, as when one stabs oneself with a knife in a deadly place of his body, and a slow one, namely “smoking”. Allah, All-Mighty, strongly bids mankind: “Do not kill yourselves!”
Abu Houraira (May Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “Whosoever throws himself from a mountain and, thus, kills himself, he will be thrown in Hell-Fire forever and ever. Whosoever drinks a poison and, thus, kills himself, his poison will be in his hand, and he will drink thereof in Hell-Fire forever and ever. Whosoever kills himself by a piece of iron, his piece of iron will be in his hand, and he will stab his abdomen therewith in Hell-fire forever and ever.”
Moreover, the Prophet (PBUH) prohibited all kinds of intoxicants or anesthetics. Umm Salama said: “The Prophet (PBUH) prohibited all kinds of intoxicants or anesthetics.”
A poor smoker is best called “a Fool”, and a rich one is best called “a Spendthrift”. And Allah, All-Wise, says: “Verily spendthrifts are brothers of Shayateen (devils); and the Shaytan (Devil-Satan) is ever ungrateful to his Lord.” [XVII ; 27]
If the vast Tobacco-fields were planted with vegetables and fruits, instead of tobacco, things would be much better, income would increase, people would be healthier, and all mankind would be far more prosperous and happy.
Smoking has been declared unlawful by a great many Muslim religious scholars, most prominent of whom are: the greatest scholar of the Ottoman State, Sheikh Ibrahim Al-Laqqani, Sheikh Salem As-Sunbouri, the Mufti of K.S.A., Sheikh Badr Ad-Deen Al-Hasani, Sheikh Ali Ad-Daqr, and Sheikh Muhammad Al-Hamid.
The head of Al-Azhar scolars, Jad Al-Haq, may Allah have mercy on him, delivered the following religious judgment about smoking: “It has become very clear that smoking, with all of its different brands and methods of use, causes a great harm to man, sooner or later, in both his soul and money. It inflects him with various and numerous kinds of diseases. Therefore, it is strongly prohibited and considered as unlawful by virtue of the textual evidences which have been mentioned previously. Hence, in view of preserving people’s souls and money and avoiding its detrimental effects, it is considered unlawful for a Muslim to use it (tobacco) under all circumstances.”
All of the above-mentioned facts have been taken from international health organizations, high standard universities, or advanced research centers.
A committee of prominent medical scientists presented a 387-page report, entitled “Smoking and Health”, confirming deadly dangers of smoking.
A prominent Swiss magazine issued the following report supported with adequate statistical data: Tobacco companies in the world produce two cigarettes a day for every man on earth. In other words, they produce 10,000,000,000 cigarettes a day. The amount of poisonous substances included in that amazingly great number of cigarettes produced everyday would cause immediate death to all mankind if they were injected into their blood, which is far greater and more serious than that of the biggest atomic bomb.
In 1975, The International Health Organization published a detailed account, in which it states: The number of those who die or lead a miserable life because of smoking are more than the total number of those who die of such fatal diseases and epidemics as pestilence, cholera, variola, tuberculosis, leprosy, typhoid, and typhus. The number of smoking-caused cases of death greatly out-number those caused by all other cases of death.
The total amount of taxes imposed by the developed countries on tobacco companies is far lesser than that spent on the treatment of smoking-related diseases.
Furthermore, a new phenomenon has come into existence, namely that diseases of the heart, blood vessels, and blood-diseases, which do not usually show before the age of sixty, are now showing up much earlier due to smoking. There are now a great many cases of heart-attacks and sudden death at the age of thirty, twenty-five, or even twenty-two, all because of smoking.
Priorities of human life are three things, the most important of which is “right guidance”, the second is “good health”, and the third is “self-sufficiency”. In other words, self-sufficiency is meaningless without good health; and good health is meaningless without right guidance. Physical health is a basic pillar of a believer’s life, as it enables him to accomplish his being Allah’s Viceroy on earth, to fulfill the mission for which he has been created, and to enjoy His Lord’s Guidance and Provision. Hence, when he gets to know that smoking destroys his health, it will be completely unreasonable and unwise that he should smoke even one single cigarette.
Allah says: “Those who follow the Messenger, the unlettered Prophet, whom they find mentioned in their own (Scriptures) – in the Torah and the Gospel – for he commands them what is just and forbids them what is evil; he allows them as lawful what is good (and pure) and prohibits them from what is bad (and impure); he releases them from their heavy burdens and from the yokes that are upon them. So it is those who believe in him, honor him, help him, and follow the Light which is sent down with him – it is they who will prosper.” [VII ; 157]
SOURCE : NABULSI
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Introspection
What actually is introspection ? Introspection means observation or examination of one’s own thought and feelings. There are two things in this definition to which we should pay special attention : first. The phrase “one’s own”, and the second, the words “ thoughts and feelings,”
You certainly know that what “one’s own”means. The phrase refers to the idea that the examination or observation concerned is not to limitedto particular person. It means that the suggestion about introspection has to do with all of us, including the person who prposes the idea himself. Then, in introspection, the observation can only be properly carried out by by the person concerned, and not by any person other than him alone.
Now, what do the word “thought and feelings” mean in this case? As you know, what ever deed we perform is the product or reflectionof what we have in imind. A man’s deeds are the products or reflection of what we have in mind. A man’s deeds are the products of his thoughts and feelings.
Consequently, if we want to try introspection, it automatically means that we should also carry out an examination of everything we have done.
Generally we are more or less displeased when someone criticizes us. Usually we think ourselves to be right and the other person to be wrong.
If we did something wrong, usually we would tend to seek for a pretext to justify it, even though our conscience admitted it secretly.
It is therefore obvious that in introspection, honesty –particularly honesty to oneself – is the most essential thing required. If we fail to fulfill this basic requirement, the introspection will be of no effect.
If we have not enough courage to be honest to other people (because, as a matter of fact, honesty requires bravery), at least we should try to be truthfull to ourselves, that is, to be true to our own conscience.
Thus, the suggestion about introspection actually contains a hint to be honest to oneself. We should make a sincese observation of our thoughts and feelings, and also of all we have done.
The observation is of course not to important for its own sake. It is required to realize and discover our own faults in order to improve ourselves.
Introspections is indeed a very good idea. But it is not an idea to be suggested only to other people. It is our own requirement. If we really want to improve , the basic matter is not to be a good person. But that today we should be better than yesterday and tomorrow we should be better than today.
Introspection should be done by of all of us.
Monday, December 1, 2008
Lets be Logical
We are sometimes surprised to know about some of the powers that we have because we are so used to taking them for granted. For instance, some readers may be surprised to learn that all of us use logic every day. In fact , everything that is ever said can be called either logical or non-logical.
When someone says, “ I am hungry, so I must eat”, he is making a logical statement. When someone says, : I am hungry, so I must eat”, he is making a logical statement. When someone says , “ I want to eat”, he is being non-logical. (You should note that nor-logical does not mean illogical.
An Illogical statement is a statement that is contrary to the rule of logic. Like this statement : “ I am hungry, so I must sing”. A non-logical statement is a statement that cannot be argued or disputed any further.
Wheter we know it or not, then, all of us are logical creatures. To say that we use logic means that we reason, and there is no normal human being who does not capable of reasoning.
Therefore no man can admit that he is more able to distinguish truth from error than other man. You may admit that you are clerever that your friend, or that you have become more educated or obtained more knowledge, but no normal man can be said to have less ability to distinguish between truth and mistake, provided that he is given chance to know the real fact clearly.
The chief difference between the understanding power of one person and that of another is due to the fact that some people use proper methods of thinking or reasoning, while others do not.
We are able to understand, and we may improve our understanding power by using the right method of thinking. The right methode will help us solve our problems more successfully. Whether they are problem concerning science, or business, or social relations, or Love.
Sometimes a man wont’t be convinced by logical argument, because pride or some other emotion is controlling his mind. No one can be rational or reasonable when emotion dominates his thoughts.
Emotion is useless when you are solving an arithmetic problem. Whether you like it or not. Two times three is six, whether it is in the United States or in The Soviet Union. Emotion isdangerous for a judge when he is presiding at a legal trial. Is the accused man guilty of a crime? If he says. “ No, because I hate him”, he is not thinking rationally, and he is not a good judge, because a good judge has be rational and reasonable studying the evidence.
It is true that we of the think irrationally, but we are capable of being reasonable, but we are capable of being reasonable and logical. We ought to use reason and logic whenever the circumstances require them. Logic is required when we deal with the task of examining evidence or proofs.
The logical man never forgets that perhaps he is wrong and the other person he is wrong and the other person is right. He is always ready to test his own opinion with the evidence, and to change his opinion as the evidence changes. The reasonable man never believes in the absoluteness of hie own views.
Sunday, November 30, 2008
Desires Have Limits.
MAN HAS VARIOUS desires. He has instinctive desires such as appetite for food and spriritual ones such as the wish for honour, acknowledgement, knowledge and beauty. He desires to do certainkinds of work in order to make the the best of himself. According to his character, capability, talent and environment, each man differs from others his desires. But no normal man is completely without desires. If man had no desires, there would be no activity, no culture and no arts. Because he has desires, man does all sorts of things to fulfill them. In that sense you can say that desires are the source and motivating power of all human activity.
Since you cannot wipe these desires out, it is important for you treat then properly and to place them in the correct proportions. What does this Mean?
Man’s desires are never as completely fulfilled as he want them to be, because when one is fulfilled, another takes its place, and when that is obtained he wants a third, and so on and on. Since desiresdevelopen endlessly, the attempt to find unlimited satisfaction can cause many problem, especially when efforts to fulfill them cause trouble to other people.
It is allright for you you try to satisfy you desires, but do it such a way as not to cause other people to suffer. If you give trouble to other people, it means that you are inviting a new problem for yourself, and in turn it will create another desire for you.
You should always remember that youu are not the only person who has desires.Yo May have to associate with a companion whose desires conflict with your won.
In addition to that, you should always know and realize the limits of your capability to achieveyour desires .Yoo should be reasonable wioth your ideals. For perhaps even as simple one . if circurtamce do not permits cannot be fulfilled satistfactorily. Don’t set your objective too high, because if you fall, the fall is far more painfull from a higher place than from alower one. Yo will suffer more servere frustration or you may even becomes seriously depressed.
Genuine Parental Love
Real Love enables parents to see when their children are disturbed, disappointed, trobled or heading for trouble. It enables them to discover some shortcomings or faults in their children, not just for the sake of finding the faults in their children. Not just for the sake of finding the faults in themselves. But in order to improve the children they love.
Parents who don’t they love their children often don’t know where their children go and what activities their children participate in. They don’t know if the children have friends who offer them drugs or encourage them to steal.ome children get into a lot of trouble because their parents don’t care about them.
There are parents who try to show their love for their children by giving them everything they ask for. As a result the children by giving them ask for . As a result the children become spoilt and selfish. Real love enables parents to see that not everything their children want willhelp them to improve and grow up in the best way.
Parents who really love their children will find time not only tell them what to do, but also to listen to their children . As a result of two way communication, parents and children can learn to understand each other . Children will realize that theior parents have a reason for decisions.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
pray for my father
In the Name Allah, The Beneficent the Mercifull
Robbirhamhumaa kamaa robbayaanii shoghiiroo
“And Lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy and say. My Lord ! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little” [Al Israa’:24]
Robbighfir lii wa li waalidayya wa li man dakhola baytiya mu’minan wa lilmu’miniina wal mu’minaati wa laa tazidizh zhoolimiina illa tabaaro
“My Lord! Forgive me and my farents and him who entereth my house believing men and believing women, and increase not the wrong – doers in aught save ruin” [Nuh:28]
Robbighfir lii wa li waalidayya warhamhumaa kamaa robbayaanii shoghiiroo
Monday, November 24, 2008
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Is Love Really Blind ?
THERE IS A saying that “love is Blind:, it refers to an erotic love when a young lover is unable to see any shortcomings in the person with whom he or she is in love.
In this case, it is not the love itself that is blind, but the erostic mood of the person concerned maked him blind to the real situation.
Not that the faults in his opposite sex, but he just won’t see them.
He always tends to get rid of any sensible and critical thoughts about the persons he loves.
But real love is actually not blind! It has eyes and can even help you to see many things that you otherwise won’t be able to see. Genuine love can see boths faults and the good in other persons.
It has eyes that see deeper than what appears merely on the surface. It is so sincere that it cannot be influenced by physical appearances and the feelings of like and dislike.
Genuine love has eyes also because it is not blinded by pride, prejudice or greed. It able to see fine qualities in others. Not looking down on them foreign ancestors. Adifferent skin clour or come from different etnic region.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
My Father
Give 'em a hug, a great big kiss.
Because one day, he will be greatly missed.
My daddy has gone far away from this land,
I miss the precious touch of his loving hands.
I never knew last year was the last day,
I could look at my daddy, hug him, and say:
"I love you, Daddy! Happy Father's Day!"
Don't let one day go by without telling him
how dear he is!
Remember you may not have another year to tell him this!
All I have now is great memories, a heart
full of love and eyes full of tears, and
to remember his love throughout the years.
Now I will have to look up at the stars and
say, "I love you, Daddy! Happy Father's Day!"
Please remember when you pray, to thank your
heavenly father up above.
For your father he gave you with so much love.
My Father
I was not able to accompany you
The sky clouded profound sorrows
Those tumultuous spoke
About all the charity
I come to you, father
Breezy in the bottom of cambodia and nisanmu
I cry and pray
Use one and all my fault to you, father
How should love and pity
How to be patient and honorable sacrifice
How should fight for the children
Until the last live
You continue to pray for the happiness children
Today I called my father
Through poems to remember you
When the time comes later
will be tell all the pomp
Together with the morning dew drought include my prayer
Hopefully you get the best place in the side of his
Father,
I Miss U. I Always Pray, pray, pray for you
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Learn from Mistakes
WHO Doesn’t make mistake ? Every one does. But the more serious problem is that many a man tends to make one mistake.into two or three.
• The first mistake is of course the making of the mistake itself,
• The second error is that. Instead of feeling of sorry about it, he make a exuse in order to escape responsibility.
• The third error is that he does not try to learn from the mistakes he has made.
• But the greatest error of all is to to let the mistake destroy your faith in yourself.
Many a young man. Because he has made a mistake and lost a good opportunity. Becomes deeply discouraged. The only sensible way is to study and analyse why you made the mistake. Learn All you can from it, let bygones and go ahead. Aim to do better nest time.
NO one can escape mistakes completely, but one can learn from them in order to tp try to make fewer mistakes in the future. You can learn from your old mistakes how to avoid making them twice and even hoow to turn every mistakes to good use.
It is wise to follow these old sayings: “He who stumbles twice on the same stone deserves to break his own neck” and turn your stumbing stones into stepping stones.
Of couse you have to feel sorry because you made a mistake, but it musn’t make you think pessimistically and assume that there is no hope and that a mistake means a fatal blow. This pessimistic mental attitude can create a sense of error in your mind and in turn it actually results in your making more errors than necessary. A phillopher oncve said : “get yourself right. Then things will go right.
The important thing is to keep studying and trying. Always believe that you can learn to do better. Constantly seek for self-improvement and never believe that you can arrive at perfection.
There is a right way and a wrong to do everthing. There is a right and a wrong way to sing and a right and a wrong way to bake a cake.
There is also a right and a wrong way to live.
Living is a science, based on definitive laws. If you do not co-operate with its laws. Life can go very badly. If you learn those laws and live within them, you life will be wonderfull.
Friday, October 17, 2008
Never Stop Learning
MANY A YOUNG MAN man who has completed his education that has learned all the lessons he needs, and that he has no need to increase or improve his knowledge. Such an opinion is a mistake . Perhaps such a person might say that he has finished his formal education to a certain extent. But If he thinks that he has come to the moment when he should stop learning altogether, then he has made a mistake he will regret afterwards.
The lessons you receive at school, that is through the method called formal education. Are only parts of the lessons you need for ypur life. In fact, the whole world you have finished school and start working or enter society, actually at the moment your real education.
This does not mean that the lessons you receive from your teacher at school are unimportant, but those lessons from only ypur basic capital, Like the progress of an industrialist, your progresss henceforth depends on your ability to make use that capital.
There are many problems which you have to solve in this world, and you can solve them only if you study all the things that have to do with those problems you only say that you never learned such things at school, then you will ge nowhere.
In society you can learn a lot from wahy you see, hear and read. With initiative and spirit for frogress, you can ask different people about various problem. This means studying. And ypu will-power in this case great determines your progress.
As you can see for yourself. Two men who graduate from the same school do not always make the same progress in society. The first may make only slow progress, while his friend proceed rapidly. Why ? Because the first, after graduation, immediately stops learning, while the second feels that he is about to begin the real education that life gives.
Never Stop Learning
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
FOR EASIER READING
Non Muslim foreigner arriving in Indonesia the night before lebaran will be surprised to hear monotonous sound of religious chant coming from the mosque all night long. If you Tell them “ Tommorow is Lebaran” they will just ask, “What’s Lebaran ?....
· You could tell them for convience, That’s like New’s year for Moslems. Its' not realy New Year ; that comes of first thay muharam, the first month . But that is never celebrated.
- In the morning, everyones wakes early and men, women and children go to the mosque for the I’dul Fitri prayer :
“ Allahu akbar, allahu akbar, laa ilaaha illallaah hualllahu akbar, allaahu akbar walillahil hamd.
- Allah is Great. Allah is Great, thre is no God but Allah, Allah is Great and all praise is His. - After the prayer, everyone shakes hands and says” Minal a’idienal Faaidzien” Which means.”I hope that you have succeeded in this purificationof mind and soul”.
- Everyone is happy and forgiving, and during the day everyone visits each other to eat and to ask forgiveness.
- Even the poor seem happy – they will notin need of food for days.
- This is because a body-tax made on every man, woman and child
