EVERYONE Wants to be liked. To be liked and appreciated is one of the normal human desires. That’s why toothpaste, perfumery, makeup and the like, are produced and sold by the millions through advertisements which promise popularity. The problem of getting along with others is no simple matter: it is an important skill which must be mastered if we are to be happy with life and with people. But how is it done ?
When interviewed by a pressman about the basic requirement of being requirement of being a successful salesman, Mr. C. Wood bridge, Director of a big American corporation, stated, “ It’s to like people. Of course he must know the product of his company. He must be hard worker. He must be dynamic, But first of all he must like people.
When a person genuinely likes other people, he himself is certain to be liked in return. So, a primary step in trying to be well liked is simply to like other people and like them sincerely, not just for a certain purpose.
Of Course, this is not always easy. Some people are more difficult to like then others. But the more you practice liking people, the easier it becomes. This cannot be done merely by saying, “ I am now going to like everybody.” Liking other people is the result of a way of thinking, that is, a positive way of thinking.
You should avoid having any negative thinking toward other people, such as pride, prejudice, jealously, unreasonable suspicion, and so on. If you can develop a positive mental attitude, the world will seem so different and wonderful that you tend to love everybody and everything.
Behaviour often speaks as clearly as words, sometimes even more clearly. Most of us tend to talk too much when people come to us with a problem, not realizing that on certain occasions silence is better than speech. Many of us do not realize that the art of good communication includes not only the skill of listening attentively and understandingly, or , in other words, listening positively.
To Listen positively is to listen with patience, symphaty and with love. Sometimes a person visits a friend to ask for advice to help solve a problem, whereas what he needs is a companion to whom he can pour out all his worries. He tells his friend all his problem. What the friend does in only listen and listen; listening attentively and sympathetically. In the end the visitor finds his own solution, thanks his friends and praises him as being very understanding, and leaves happily.
What the wise friend did? He seemed to do nothing, but actually he did something creative. He Has no negative feeling toward his visitors; he loves his guests, he loves everybody who comes to him for help, and in return, the guest loves his as well……………………….
GEOGLOBE
Sunday, February 22, 2009
To Like and to be liked
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